Today was a rough day for many of us. Ever since the news broke of Carrie Fisher’s heart attack on Christmas Eve, many of us went through the holidays with uneasy concern. Through the family gatherings, food and drink we went through the motions looking at Twitter now and then expecting the worst. Early this afternoon it was no different as the news came in from People magazine that Carrie Fisher died this morning at the age of 60.
As an amateur blogger that tries to deliver the news about Star Wars, you get pretty good at peeling away all the layers to get the real meat of a story. When I read the press statement from Billie Lourd about her mother, I could only think of one thing – that a daughter just lost her Mom after only 24 years. I don’t know about you guys, but 24 years certainly isn’t enough time to be with my incredible Mom. Heck as I type this I shutter at the thought of losing her now, and I’m 41.
There will be plenty of deep dive, long stories talking about Carrie’s amazing accomplishments in Film. Her devotion to awareness of mental health and the abolishment of that stigma. Her advocacy against addiction and her incredible wit and blunt humor. I have always tried to do something different here at the Post for our readers. Something they might not get anywhere else. I also try my best every day to get you guys one nugget of info that you might have missed or news that would keep you thinking while you sit in traffic on the way home. The one thing I can offer you guys tonight is a lesson worth remembering.
Maybe it’s because I’m getting a little older or perhaps just dealing with death throughout the years; I have learned something valuable I wanted to share with you all today. The grief and anguish we all feel is real and should be accepted as such. Do the backstroke in the pool of despair till your fingers get all pruney. Throwback that scotch and have a warm chat with a friend or vent your despair on Twitter. While you are navigating your dusty paths of grief, I wanted to remind you all that there is a lesson here to be learned.
Life is all about learning lessons, most of which are suffered and gained on your own. However, those who invest in learning the lessons of others-their trial and tribulations, gain wisdom. If there ever was one compliment I have ever received over and over again in my short life it has been that people thought I was very wise for my age. I always chalked it up to the hereditary baldness, and just looking the part, but over time, I have to come to value that compliment. I believed early on that learning the lessons learned by other people could make my life happier by averting those pitfalls they endured. Diverting from those wrong turns that take a life of promise and lead it someplace gray or worse. My extended roadmap built on lessons of not one but many.
We will all miss Carrie Fisher but the one lesson she has taught all of us time and again is something you need to sink deep into your brain meat because it really matters. That lesson is simple enough: Be Genuine.
This lesson is never truer than in our own Star Wars fandom, where many of us didn’t exactly fit in with others growing up. How some of us lived through challenged childhoods, bullying and a plethora of harsh events that made us seek asylum in the stories of hope in Star Wars. For many in this fandom, Star Wars is the comfort food of the soul when life is bleak, or we need inspiration from the farm boy saving the Galaxy. How many of you put in that strained Empire Strikes Back VHS and grabbed a warm blanket while sulking away on the couch?
If there is anything you walk away with today, I want you to look in the mirror and tell yourself the lesson taught by Carrie to be the genuine you. Be happy with who you are, warts and all. Because truth be told the only person you have to love and gain respect from every day is you. Be genuine in your beliefs and be a rampart in defending them. Be genuine in your love of others and shower them with honest sincerest care, exposed for all the world to see.
Learning the lessons from our loved lost is a gift of real remembrance.
We love you Carrie Fisher, more than you will ever know.